{"id":2146,"date":"2016-11-10T13:26:40","date_gmt":"2016-11-10T19:26:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.caregiversunite.org\/?p=2146"},"modified":"2016-11-10T13:26:40","modified_gmt":"2016-11-10T19:26:40","slug":"stage-4-the-pragmatic-caregiver-by-caregiving-com","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.caregiversunite.org\/?p=2146","title":{"rendered":"Stage 4: The Pragmatic Caregiver (by caregiving.com)"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I Am Still Helping<\/h1>\n<\/header>\n
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\"\"<\/a>Stage 4: The Pragmatic Caregiver<\/h3>\n

I am\u00a0still<\/em>\u00a0helping a family member or friend.<\/p>\n

Who are you?
\nYou\u2019ve been through it all: hospital admission and discharges; short-term rehab stays in nursing homes; a vast array of community services. You may appear to doubt the advice given by health care professionals; you\u2019ve just been through the health care system long enough to know that sometimes health care professionals may not seem to have your best interest in mind.<\/p>\n

Some family members and health care professionals worry about your ability to find humor in situations they find offensive. They view your attitude as \u201ccalloused\u201d and \u201cuncaring.\u201d Far from it, you have a very practical, very realistic approach toward your caregiving role\u2013and your sense of humor has been a critical tool for your survival. Without your sense of humor, you would have given up a long time ago.<\/p>\n

Your Keyword: Welcome
\n\u2013Welcome the joys of your relationship;
\n\u2013Welcome forgiveness (of yourself, of your caree, of other family members and friends);
\n\u2013Welcome shared activities.<\/p>\n

Your Challenge
\nTo gain a greater understanding of yourself and your caree.<\/p>\n

Your Purpose
\nTo gain a better understanding of yourself and your caree. You\u2019ve settled into your role and your routine; now is your opportunity to step back and reflect. The first three stages laid the groundwork for this stage, your period of personal growth.<\/p>\n

As a \u201cpragmatic caregiver,\u201d what can you do?
\n1. Work on finding joy in your relationship with your caree.
\nThe biggest joy-killer are your hands-on duties: bathing, dressing, incontinence care. But these duties bring you together, this is your time together. Add some fun to your hands-on care: sing songs, tell jokes, share goals and dreams.<\/p>\n

2. Work on forgiving your caree for past hurts.
\nResentment toward past wrong and injustices will make your present caregiving role very difficult. Let go of what was and concentrate on making what is healthy and productive. Forgiving your caree is one of the best ways you take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

3. Develop a habit of enjoying shared activities.
\nDevelop a routine of time shared as husband-wife, mother-daughter, father-son rather than as just caregiver and caree. Releasing the roles of caregiver and caree allows you to enjoy each other.<\/p>\n

4. Begin to think about your future.
\nWhat goals have you yet to achieve? How can you achieve them? How can your caree help you achieve them?<\/p>\n

5. An apple a day\u2026
\nWhat\u2019s your apple in this stage? What helps you to feel good on a daily basis? You may feel like trying something new. That\u2019s good! You can never have too many apples.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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